Hazrat Ayesha (RA) reported that : “It was not the nature of Rasulullah (SallAllaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) to talk indecently, nor did he engage himself in the use of obscene language. Nor did he shout and talk in the bazaars (which is against dignity). He did not avenge a bad deed with a bad one, but forgave it, and thereafter did not even mention it.”
§ Some people are by nature, indecent and habituated to telling obscene jokes; some, in order to keep a gathering happy, indulge in indecent conversations. For this reason, Hazrat Ayesha (RA) refuted both.
There is no harm if one goes to the bazaar to fulfil one’s needs, but to go there and shout about is against dignity. One should, in a quiet manner, complete one’s needs and return. This also does not mean that by not shouting in the bazaar, he made a noise at other places. The object is that it is generally found that people make a noise in the bazaars (whilst dealing, etc.). If one is calm in the bazaars, it is apparent that at other places too, one will be calm.
§ The whole history of Rasulullah (SallAllaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) is filled with incidents where he did not avenge a bad deed with a bad one. What type of torments and suffering did he not suffer at the hands of the non-believers? What did he not confront in the Battle of Uhud? When the Sahaba (RA) could not bear these happenings, they requested Rasulullah (SallAllaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) to curse these non-believers. Instead Rasulullah (SallAllaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) made this Dua : “O Allah, grant my nation Hidayah, for they know not.”
[Extracted from Shamaa`il Tirmizi]